I have memories all the way back to the late 40s. Our family was close knit,
and generally happy. From Vanport,
to Okinawa, to
Recently I have discovered a website that explains, exactly, how this cult works. With permission of the author, I would like to direct you to the website, “Telling The Truth”. http://www.tellingthetruth.info/home/index.php
Exactly what is a cult?- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cult
Government list of cults- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_groups_referred_to_as_cults_in_government_documents
“Telling The Truth”. http://www.tellingthetruth.info/home/index.php accurately explains the workings.
There is an enormous amount of information available, but I would recommend
that you browse, and look for the things that interest you most. I found information
about the people we met in
The point to be made here is that families can suffer if there is a
I was listening to a talk show, discussing sex in marriage, and what was right and wrong, as far as what the bible teaches. The subject was being discussed by a minister, and he didn’t hesitate to color everything with his own personal opinion. This brings us to the next subject.
The other thing that everyone refuses to agree on, and, causes enormous global strife, and, is probably the root of most religions, is sex.
The talk show I was listening to brought up the question of masturbation, and oral sex. The minister dodged the question,”right or wrong?”, by saying there was nothing in the bible concerning that, but it was probably O.K. as long as you didn’t lust after someone other than your spouse. Does this preclude sex without marriage?
I don’t know about you guys, but I had sexual feelings at a very early age, in an age where sex was, totally taboo. The television shows we watched had stunningly beautiful women, but were stingy with cleavage, and navels, and 60 plus years later, the kid’s cartoons have breasts, and show very provocative images. I had a tough time handling the material they showed in the 50s and 60s.
Some religions cover the woman’s body completely, a little drastic, and within a few thousand miles women feel completely comfortable, naked. It isn’t long before they are corrupted by “civilization”, and feel a need to cover themselves. I think that is very interesting.
As children we had no guidance at all. They taught a class called “sex education” and the main subject was abstinence, with no further explanation. If you indulged, the danger of disease brought up. If you learned anything about sex, it was from the other ten year old children. Where did they get their info? The only time we got accurate information was when one of the ten year olds was being molested at home.
Nowadays it seems like an awful lot of children are being molested, but the truth is that we just never heard so much about it, when we were children. With the media, and all the watchdog organizations in place, you would think that we would have improved “sex education”, by now.
So we bring up our children without educating them, and they go through life struggling with those feelings, and fighting urges, not realizing the drastic consequences for giving in. I had a lot of preconceived notions when I was fourteen, and the first girl to take advantage of my innocence was older than I, and not willing to go any farther than “necking” and some tame “petting”. This was frustrating to me, and fighting my urges became an everyday battle, to last the rest of my life.
It’s hard to say what normal is. Everyone has different feelings, at different levels of urgency. People who are unable to control their urges become criminals, and if caught, face punishment to fit the crime. I have to wonder how many people could be helped if we had a comprehensive instructional program.
One of the biggest problems I have with mixing religion and sex, is the religious requirement to remain celibate, until marriage. With a fifty percent divorce rate for all kinds of reasons, this is probably the main cause. Sexual incompatibility, or infidelity is the overwhelmingly biggest cause for two people to not get along.
I hope we find a better way to educate our children. I wish I had some suggestions, but I was so warped by my experiences, I am unable to understand how other people feel, without knowing how I feel.
The one thing I have learned is that jealousy is the most crippling disease that I know of. If we can overcome that, life gets a lot smoooooother.
My parents always thought that everyone should have a college education. My dad told me that he would pay for my education, if I would wait to get married. My sexual urges were so strong, and I was so sick of school, and circumstances beyond my control, made it necessary for me to marry before I was really ready.
I never did well in school. I was a busy little boy, and unless I was really interested, school was a waste of time, and I couldn’t be bothered with it. These were the days when no-one ever heard of A.D.H.D. and too much sugar was the cause of hyperactivity. No-one knew about learning disorders and things like dyslexia, or savants. I always wanted to make my parents proud, so I made an attempt to go back to school, and get an engineering degree. I tried, extra hard, but was unable to make the kind of grades that were required. I used the excuse that I had a family, and was unable to devote the time, but the real truth was that a lot of the material I was trying to absorb was beyond my ability to grasp. At this time I did not understand this, yet. I was in my early thirties, and self employed, and could have devoted any amount of time, necessary to learn. It wasn’t ‘til later in life, when in my early sixties, I finally realized that you cannot give an answer when you don’t understand the question. I took a class in speech, and failed miserably, simply because I was unable to absorb the required material.
Some people are suited for higher education, and some are not. It can eliminate a lot of grief if you recognize this.
My parents both smoked and drank alcohol when I was a very young boy. In
Right around fourteen years of age, being “cool” became very important, and I took up smoking, to be “cool’. It was one thing I wish I had resisted, because smoking became a forty three year addiction, a thing I was unable to stop until my health deteriorated to the point I was unable to smoke. That was over ten years ago.
Here’s some of the neat things smoking does for you. You can count on bad breath, gum disease, yellowing of the teeth and fingers. It will always affect your endurance, and if you are lucky, you get heart disease and lung cancer.
People are smoking less, because it is less acceptable. I just hope that one person reads this, and decides not to smoke.